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Last day of march
Saturday march 31st.
The last day of March and it is still quite cool outside. The sun is shining but you certainly need a warm coat when venturing outside. It is lovely to see daffodils and tulips growing in gardens. I have bunches in vases in the lounge. Such beautiful flowers but they do not last very long. The daffs do not seem to last more than a few days even when you buy them in bud. Tulips vary and I have found that an aspirin in the water stops the stems from bending over. They stay upright. It is like a magic trick!!
I woke at 5am again but this time made a drink and got back into bed. I woke up at 7am having not touched the drink! I feel much more relaxed today and theb pain that was evident at 5am had gone by 7am....hooray!
I was supposed to go nto Nik's last evening after my lesson in Formby. Nik had taken the boys to Ormskirk to a party and was late back. I went to see my friends David and Sue whilst waiting on her return and got invited for tea. Just as well as I had a text message at 7pm saying do not come as Rob is in a foul mood, he has come home and started cleaning up and complaining at the state of the house and no tea cooked. The boys were chastised and sent to their rooms and he was going mad spring cleaning the kitchen diner.So I never went near as I know what he is like in a mood like that. Poor Niki she has a lot to put up with as looking after 3 boys and 3 extras after school every day. The place is bound to get messy. She could not be in Ormskirk and cooking tea at the same time. It seems so unreasonable to me. But I dare not interfere!
I rang this morning and she said she had managed to keep nout of his way. Probably he had a hangover from his evening of poker the night before! Apparently he is ok this morning. It must be hard for her to tiptoe around trying not to upset the master!
I have been busy on the phone this morning having rung all my children. I was on the phone to Matt for an hour putting the world to rights and discussing Nik's predicament! Still she loves him so what is there to say? I could not stand it personally. Whatever else my ex was...he was not a bully and he rarely raised his voice or hand in anger. If he had I would have been out of the door with the kids. I could not standthe moods and not knowing when he is about to explode.
I am meeting Nik later to take her out for lunch after her football duty. She watches one boy while Rob watches the other in their match.This starts at 12 and finishes about 1pm. Owen has his match earlier at 10am I think but it is all go in their house on Saturdays! So I will treat her to lunch to try and make it up to her. I do not know what else to do to make it alright for her. I feel pretty helpless really. It breaks my heart to know whe is not really very happy in her marriage. One thing I wanted after my diastrous marriage , was that they found happiness with a nice kind partner. It hasn't happened for Nikki; Matt had a sham wedding and a marriage that lasted 6 months before she took off; Andy was devastated when Nicola went off to London with his friend and took jack with her. So none of them have had a happy relationship to date. I have high hopes of Andy and Cara's relationship, with a baby on the way that is yearned for. Matt and Tien seem to have worked through their problems and I do hope that turns out to be successful. But what can Nik do when she clearly loves Rob despite his mood swings? Your guess is as good as mine.
Well I am off to town now to post a letter and get a few bits and bobs. Then I will pick up Nikki and have lunch at the garden centre and also pick up a few plants in pots for my balcony. Nik got me a beauty for Mothers Day but I need a few more and a box to hang over the balcony and fill with bizzie lizzies.
Have a good weekend and keep smiling.
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Dear Connie, sorry to hear Nikki is living with what sounds like a control freak. She is so busy, not only with the children but also working, he is being utterly unreasonable expecting a show home. I hope she is able to sort him out otherwise its a shame to share a life with a sad, miserable git! Mind you, if she loves him (or thinks she does) she won't leave. I am glad she has got you as her mum to realise whats going on and to love and spoil her. Glad to hear that you are feeling a bit better too. Hugs, Terry x
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Glad you a feeling abit better and managing to sleep better and longer .Enjoy your lunch with Niki ,not much you can do but give your support,have a good weekend ...Love Jeanx
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Im sure that extra two hours will have done you a world of good ,its awful the helpless feeling when one of your children is being bullied in this way,I had this with one of my daughters ,unforefunately she jumped out of the frying pan into the fire ,to interfere only makes things worse .love Jan xx
31/03/07 23:33
I think you're doing okay for Nikki, just by being there for her. B. x