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a friend in need
the above tag was done by connie of ANYWAY.......................... for her friends who had helped her in her recent trouble. i asked if i may snag it, she gave me her permission. so i want you all to do what she wants. pass it on to all your friends. please snag it and use as you will. if you read this you are my friend and deserve it.
many thanks for those who answered my entry on Call for Support a prayer for carrie. a good friend , jane,in my chatroom i use, her daughter carrie recently had lazer eye surgery. which seems to have gone tragically wrong. poor girl is in a lot of pain and distress. neither write journals. yet when i asked you replied. that is friendship. thankyou.
mums visitor came yesterday and stayed 2 hours,they have become good friends, and has given mum someone to talk to. i am grateful to her. I , like many carers don't have much free time. if i am going to be gone out for any length of time i have toorganise the Crossroads caring service, and they send someone to call in and make her a cup of tea etc. or a neibour will help. so, friends are important to me and to other carers. we need you. you keep us sane. to be able to talk.laugh, and to have someone you can moan to,when it gets bad that's friendship.
i have said some of this before. but i realised just lately just how important my "online" friends are. i don't have that many friends outside the web, pam is my best friend,and i do go over to see her every week, but i also have/ had a good friend kev, we been mates over 37 years. i am 5 years older than him, i saved him from being bullied one day, just after my dad died. the aspiring village bully was doing his best to make kevs life a misery when i walked past. now,bear in mind, i was bullied a lot, and i mean a LOT at school.i was quiet, preferred reading to sports, a loner. ( stop saying awwww pam lol) when i left school i joined an electricians for 6 months before deciding i preferred shop work,and was bullied by one electrician there. dear douggy lol he made my life hell. until one day something snapped. he threw a hammer at me and called me ****ing useless tosser. i broke his nose. hardest punch i ever threw in my life. lol after that,and a lot of pain lol he treated me with respect. which is when i realised. bullies are cowards. so, kev being bullied,me going past, and 1 very sorry bully in a hawthorn hedge, because i picked him up and dumped him in it lol. shook kevs hand, and we were mates. and were until last year. he would ring me every week, usually a friday, he got free calls so we would talk for ages. he lives in london, his wife died several years ago. before he moved away we would go everywhere together. happy days kev. i was due to go into hospital last year for a tonsil removed, i didnt know if it was cancerous, i now know that it was my MS causing many of the problems i was getting,but it was a worrying time for me. kevin was supposed to ring the tuesday night after i got home. i sent him txt to say i was out and op had gone ok, and he has never rung me since. why? i have no idea. he told mum i was always on here,pc, and he never knew when to phone. now that is true, but the last time we talked,the week before the op we were chatting for over an hour. i have sent txts, he replied to1 saying would ring the next week, never did. and i just drifted. gave up. no christmas card from him, his sister and mum sent us 1 none from kev. no birthday card. so i gave up. and then yesterday i opened our local paper and in the funeral notices,giving thanks was a notice. his mother,Betty was dead and buried. said after short illness at home, donations given to macmillan nurses so assume she died from cancer, and neither he, nor his sister sue,even let me know betty was dead. i used to stay every weekend,they kept a pub and i would go over on my motorbike another story maybe? and stay. betty was like a second mother to me. i would have liked to have paid my last respects at her funeral.
so, apart from pam,i really don't have many people (any really) i call close friends.apart from you all. my jland friends,and my chatroom friends. and i thank you. for being there when it gets bad and say come on mort another day tomorrow. thankyou. you all deserve that award. every one of you. take care all
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I'm the one sitting her saying Awww Mort. I hope you know without a doubt I'll always be here for you hon. Feel free to email me anytime you need to talk or have someone listen. It takes a lot of courage to learn to stand up for yourself. I'm sorry Kev has fallen out with you. No matter what they should of still extended the courtesy to let you know what happened to his mother. Your in my thoughts dear friend. (Hugs)Indigo
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Hey my fav other man. I need you to know something... You sitting comfortably?...Listening?.... Ok ok keep your hair on I will tell you now! lol. speaking on behalf of all of us J-Landers, we all totally love you to bits and need you to realise how much you enrich our lives. I know that I personally would be lost without your friendship. It is sad when people, especially close friends drift apart the way yours did. I found myself In that exact same situation as you a few years back and It almost broke my heart. If I had to give any advice, It would be to try one more time sending a text to kev with a make or break ultimatum. If you get no response. that's It. It's gone, In the past, you have to wish It well and let It go. Life can be so cruel sometimes. On a cheerier note tho...I would have paid good money to see you whacking that clown! lol.Crossroads Is good from what I hear, I am heading towards that line of work. That's what I want to do. I am so pleased your mum has got a friend. Stay strong my lamb. Apologies for the novel!! lol I will send you an Invoice! ;-) Love Pam xx
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I have to admit I was doing a pam and going awwwwwwww.............I agree that most of my friends are online ones apart from Trina of course lol......but you kind of know where you are with an online friend :o)
Jenny
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Hello Mort ....
Gosh that was a heartfelt entry today - its a shame Kevin has lost touch with you, but perhaps he didn't mean to.....extend your hand to him now, you never know it might be just what he needs, remember you were once very supportive of him.
Life brings all kinds of situations into our lives and all kinds of people with it, some jus remain acquaintences and others dearly loved friends, they all add something to our lives for a reason, and it is up to us to determine what reason and how we use it.
You're a lovley chap Mort and a nice friend :o)
Big Luv - Jaynee X
01/07/08 16:47
we all love you to bits and would be lost without out you,
i know how i felt over the last 7 days whilst unable to chat etc,
.....more on my blog later hopefully...
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xxxx